Our wedding was simple, and fun. We had an awesome day, everyone partied, and really, we were more focused on what was to come after, rather than stressing about the what colour the bonbonniere was. We didn’t even have bonbonniere.
Back in the day, we were the first ones to get engaged in our friendship group. And our friendship group was 99.9% male. Early 20s male, so you can basically read that as “PARTY TIME”.
I was mid-20s, with a few failed relationship runs on the board, and ready for a light-hearted good time. So when we got engaged, I was THRILLED, but I also didn’t want to be that girl who suddenly cares about weddings and getting married and that whole thing being important. And to be honest, it’s still not important, the day. I used to joke that as long as we both turned up at the same time and said “I do”, then that’s all I cared about. I had an allergy to all things co-dependent and needy, so I sort of went the other way in my overly casual response to it all.
I had two jobs, went to uni full time, and we couldn’t afford a honeymoon. So my regret about the day is that I didn’t spend enough time thinking about it. Getting excited for it, taking some time off to enjoy it, having a little honeymoon bubble. I didn’t even take the day before off work, I just swapped it for a different day that week. I had an exam two days later. Went to work on the Monday.
Don’t get me wrong, we’re fine. I rarely even think about it – but sometimes I wonder if I should have just wallowed in my bridezilla moment a little more. Got a facial, or some shit. Bored everyone with endless discussion about centrepiece choices and paper grams. Instead of it being a blip on the calendar, I could have milked it for ages, and indulged myself a little bit more. It’s the only time you’re allowed, you know? So now when I see ladies going all out, I’m like “you go girl!”, and then silently thank Little Baby Cheesus that there was no Pinterest when I got married.
Do you have wedding day regret? Someone tell me you had your cake knocked over or something. Please!